Magic in the Room #86: A Party Where Everyone Belongs with Toneille Bent
January 23, 2022
Toneille Bent’s family threw great parties where everyone was welcome and belonged. In this episode of Magic in the Room, Hannah, Luke, and special guest Toneille Bent talk about what it takes to build organizations where everyone belongs, just like those parties. Diversity, equity, and inclusion are characteristics of these organizations, but it takes intentionality, vulnerability, humanity, and courage to reach these ideals.
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