Magic in the Room #161: Survival Strategies: Four Steps for Handling Stress
Sarah Whitfield • August 15, 2023
This week on Magic in the Room, we continue discussing managing stress. One approach to managing stress is to use the Four Cs: calm, contain, care, and cope. The Four Cs framework originates in trauma-informed care in the medical practice, but we apply it in this episode to dealing with our stress or leading a team through stress.
Each of the Four Cs emphasizes critical touchstones in the process of dealing with stress. Survival Strategies: Four Steps for Handling Stress.
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Episodes and Resources mentioned in this episode:
- Magic in the Room #131: Replay - Being Resilient with Lorca Smetana
- Magic in the Room #69: Leading When People Experience Trauma with Chris King
The Four Cs are originally found in Trauma-Informed Healthcare Approaches
A Guide for Primary Care edited by Megan R. Gerber
Credits:
- This episode of Magic in the Room was recorded remotely
- Music by Evan Grim. Find his music on
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