Magic in the Room #168: Resilience and Wellbeing with Guest Lorca Smetana
Sarah Whitfield • October 3, 2023
In this episode of Magic in the Room, Hannah and Luke visit Lorca Smetana’s Montana farm to discuss the connection between resilience and wellbeing. Lorca is an expert in building holistic resiliency skills, helping parents and professionals in high-stress or trauma work embrace radical self-care in recommitting to vibrant, sustainable, and creative lives. During the conversation, Lorca gives three steps you can take to build resilience. First, understand compassion. Second, ask yourself what your real need is. Third, redefine self-care to self-honoring.
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Find Lorca at www.linkedin.com/in/lorca-smetana or www.lorcasmetana.com.
Links Mentioned:
- Lorca was on Magic in the Room #106: Being Resilient with Lorca Smetana
- Chris King was on Magic in the Room #69: Leading When People Experience Trauma with Chris King
- Dopamine Nation by Dr. Anna Lembke
- The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk MD
- My Grandmother’s Hands by Resmaa Menakem
Credits:
- This episode was recorded at Lorca’s farm in Montana
- Music by Evan Grim. Find his music on
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